A Fresh Start: How to Prepare Your Child When Relocating
|Published: 28th June 2017 14:39|
It’s quite common for families to move. Job opportunities arise, children become unhappy in their current school situation, and family commitments such as a sick grandparent means you have to uproot and relocate. Moving can be challenging: you’re saying goodbye to your friends, community and familiarity. It’s difficult enough for adults, and so, it’s incredibly tough for children. Here’s how you can make relocating easier for your child.
Make sure to include your child (or children) in the moving process. Although you may not be able to adhere to their requests, listening to their worries and opinions will help them get any qualms off their chest. If you know whether they’re worried, you may be able to help them, and prepare them for the change. By discussing the move well in advance, your child will also be able to prepare themselves for their first day at a new school.
Of course, there are some limitations. Catchment areas will limit your choices, and sometimes, poor transportation will mean certain schools are a no-go. However, listen to your child’s requests, and if you can afford private education, include this in their options. Before the move, there may have never been a good time to pull your child out of school; however, a fresh start for the family can also mean a new start for your child’s education. Request prospectuses from independent schools, and check their statistics. For example, Long Close School, one of the independent schools in Berkshire, are “outstanding in all areas,” according to their latest SIS Inspection report. Therefore, such outstanding possibilities should be considered – it may even soften the blow of moving and excite them.
Celebrate Your Leaving
You want to make sure you finish the end of this chapter of your life on a happy, upbeat note. Invite friends round, and have one last gathering in your current abode. Make sure you child has a chance to say goodbye to their friends, but also make sure they understand that they’ll be able to keep in touch. Take photos of them together, and while all your child’s friends are under one roof, let them know that they’ll have the chance to see each other again and are always welcome to visit.
Once You Have Moved
Moving is chaotic, and there is little chance of having a smooth transition from your old house to your new home. There will be days (maybe even weeks), of unpacking boxes, buying new furniture, redecorating; therefore, you child may feel all out of sorts. They may also feel lonely because while you’re trying to sort out the house, they have no one to hang out with.
To counter this chaos, you need to try and get your child back into a familiar routine. From day one, make sure mealtimes and bedtimes are similar if not identical to those back at home. Also, ensure that your child’s room is the first room to be unpacked and sorted. When they start their new school, go with them to meet the Headteacher. Teenagers may berate you for being “clingy,” however, they will probably appreciate having you there. Let your child know that if they make friends, they’re welcome to bring them home or go to their house.
A move is challenging; yet, it’s possible to relocate without too much chaos. Although you want your child to fit in, make sure they have structure, so they feel more secure while settling into unfamiliar territory.