How To Beat Wedding Day Nerves
|Published: 27th April 2012 12:05|
How to beat wedding day nerves!
(Image courtesy of Neil Bowler Photography)
If you're freaking out about your rapidly approaching big day, we know where you're coming from. With so much do and so many people to please, anyone would start to feel the pressure.
The good news is: that feeling of being completely overwhelmed, whether it is down to bitching bridesmaids, a monster of a mother-in-law or a huffy husband-to-be, can be combated with our top ten tips...
1. Keep calm
You've heard it before, but it really does work: learn to take deep breaths when you feel the stress building. Take a step back and learn to relax by getting a massage, taking a long hot bubble bath or simply getting a good night's sleep. You'll be able to cope better with things in the morning.
2. The art of compromise
With so many people involved and so many to please, choose your battles wisely. When it comes to little decisions, ask yourself 'is this fight really worth it?' If the answer is no, try to meet people half-way, be it allowing your h2b to pick the band or your bridesmaids to choose their dresses.
3. Remember, you can't please everyone
You will never please everyone all of the time - so don't even try. As long as the two most important people (you and h2b) are happy with how things are going then try to take a step back from all the mini dramas. Focus on what matters to you and zone out everyone else's worries.
4. Delegate, delegate, delegate!
All that wedding organisation can easily send the most chilled out b2b into freak-out mode. Think about getting a wedding planner - or use friends and family to help out. Sharing out your ‘to do' list where you can will make key players feel important - and make your life easier.
5. Avoid stressing out
Taking good care of yourself will help keep those nerves under control. Simple things like ensuring you are eating properly, getting eight hours of sleep every night and keeping healthy with regular exercise - and sexercise - will help keep stress at bay.
6. A problem shared is a problem halved
Organise a girls' night - or even better, get your maids to do it. Get the goss and share anything that is bothering you. A regular girly fun night will help keep things in perspective and give you loads of laughs along the way: always the best medicine.
7. Stay positive
Attitude is a little thing that can make a big difference. If you go by the phrase ‘every cloud has a silver lining' you will soon find that your attitude is contagious. You never know, even the moaners and groaners in your wedding party might take note.
8. Spend time together
As the big day approaches, you may find yourself arguing more than usual with your other half. Combat this by putting aside quality time with each other, when you're not talking about wedding plans, revising guest lists or checking bookings. Schedule in a pre-wedding romantic weekend away or keep costs down with a chill-out date night.
9. Keep your eyes on the prize
Fed up with endless organisation? Make yourself a time-plan and remember, the day will come sooner than you think. Whenever the detail is threatening to get on top of you, visualise the big picture. It will be great. Stop fretting.
10. Remember why you're getting married
Worried about the details of your wedding? Stop stressing about napkins, table gifts and seating plans. More important than anything else, is the fact that You Are Getting Married To The Man You Love. Even if everything goes wrong (which it won't), keep in mind that it is only one day. The rest of your married life is ahead of you, and that's what really counts. Your wedding day should be about celebrating your future with family and friends - so put all the drama to the back of your mind and enjoy!